February 2, 2017
Every couple and family that we work with has
a story many, many stories. There are happy ones and sad ones, long ones and short ones, stories that make us double over in laughter, and stories that let us see depths of despair. We love learning the story of each of our couples and families — it’s one of our favorite parts about our work. But we are not storytellers. We are story-documenters.
When we realized this, we knew that we should document ours as well. The Radian Story is the story of us, Radhika and Ian. From the day we were born to where we stand now, this is our story from babies to bride & groom.
Part 2: Second Grade (Or How Our Brothers Like to Tell It)
To be completely honest, we so enjoyed hearing about the day we were born from our parents. There’s just something about reading, in writing, from your own mothers’ perspectives, what it was like. When we started thinking about second grade, the year we met each other, we realized that we actually didn’t remember much. We certainly didn’t like each other back then; we didn’t even pay attention to each other. So we did the logical thing: we asked our younger brothers to tell the story. Like us, they are also the same age — two years younger than us. Below is their account of what we were like the year we met, and what it was like growing up with us.
From Ian’s brother, Gordon:
What was Ian like as a kid?
He could do it all. You know how today people say, “Google it”? In our family we say, “Give it to Ian.” No, Ian is not omniscient, like Google. But growing up, it sure did feel like he had all of the answers. Got a new Lego set that had too many pieces? Give it to Ian. Problems with the Internet modem? Call Ian and let him take care of it. I am not sure why we thought he would innately know how to fix these things, but he would always figure it out. There wasn’t a video game he couldn’t beat, no level too high, or boss too strong. Ian could do it.
Growing up, the first house we lived in had brick patio. Ian and I use to gather all of our army men and line them up on either side, each of us fortifying our forces to bring the other down. We would gather ammunition, otherwise knowns as sticky balls from the gumball trees in our yard. One by one, we would take turns taking aim at the others’ men. I don’t have vivid memories of whether or not one of us would win more than the other. I do however, remember the first time Ian used a flaming sticky ball. You see, our father would grill out on this brick patio.
One summer night, after we had finished dinner, Ian revolutionized the game. I didn’t see him light the first sticky ball, I just remember seeing it take out one of my squadrons. The next thing you know, our front yard looked like a medieval war zone. Ian was innovative. He continually set the bar high, as all big brothers should. The problem is, none of us have to try to reach that bar. Because, well, we can give it to Ian.
From Radhika’s brother, Aniruddh:
Thinking of my childhood and growing up with my sister generated some fantastic memories. The best thing I remember about my sister in elementary school was her ability to convince my parents to buy the things we didn’t necessarily need. We called her the ‘lawyer.’ Whether it was Pokemon cards or a new Game Boy, it usually took both of us pleading to convince our parents, but she could usually win them over. I didn’t mind though: she used her powers often to help me get out of trouble.
Unlike me, she was studious and actually seemed to enjoy learning and reading. I never really understood why she always acted so responsibly towards things like homework, school, and learning. I always thought she was just being a know-it-all, but she was just being a typical first child.
I remember one particular night when she stayed up late to complete a project. The next day she fell asleep with her head on my shoulder on the bus ride home from school and some of the other kids laughed. Now, I realize that this all sums up my sister pretty well and it makes sense why she and Ian are a perfect fit. She’s incredibly responsible, quirky, and doesn’t care what others think of her. If she discovers a new passion, she pursues it with gusto and determination. You can tell that those characteristics match perfectly with Ian’s.
Have you ever asked your siblings about what you were like in elementary school? Leave a comment and tell us below how it went!